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COMBAT VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN
BOOKS
Emotional Abuse
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No Visible Wounds :
Identifying Nonphysical Abuse of Women by Their Men
by Mary Susan, Phd Miller
DOES YOUR PARTNER . . .
* have sudden outbursts of anger or rage?
* become jealous without reason?
* prevent you from seeing friends and family?
* deny you access to family assets such as bank accounts, credit cards, or the car?
* control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
* insult you or call you derogatory names?
* humiliate you in front of your children?
* turn minor incidents into major arguments?
If you or someone you know can answer "yes" to the questions above, chances are you are suffering from nonphysical battering--controlling,
tyrannical behavior that is just as damaging to a woman's self-esteem as a broken bone or a black eye. An experienced counselor who
works with abused women, Mary Susan Miller breaks the silence that surrounds this devastating form of domestic violence. She identifies
the many types of nonphysical abuse verbal, emotional, psychological, social, and economic--and explores why this outrageous treatment
of women continues unabated in our society.
Dr. Miller also shares the stories of many survivors who have escaped their abusive relationships. Their experiences--with law enforcement,
the legal system, and the community itself--can help prepare any woman for the decision of whether to stay or leave the relationship. And if
she decides to go, Dr. Miller offers sound guidelines on how to protect herself and her children, since a woman's decision to leave is usually
the time she is in the most danger from her abuser.
Finally, Dr. Miller inspires hope: You can break free of the nightmare of nonphysical battering and heal, once again engaging in a life of
integrity, dignity, and peace.
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Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them
by Susan Forward, Joan Torres
- Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?
- Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?
- Is he extremely jealous and possessive?
- Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?
- Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?
- Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?
- Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?
- Do you find yourself "walking on eggshells" and apologizing all the time?
If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist -- a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous
pain because he acts as if he hates you.
In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men ad women trapped in these relationships
to help you understand you man's destructive pattern, the part you play in it, how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect,
and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.
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The Emotionally Abused Woman :
Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself
by Beverly Engel
If you feel unfairly criticized, controlled by others, or are afraid of being lonely, you could be suffering from emotional abuse. Now there is help
in this compassionate sourcebook. Bevery Engel, a marriage, family, and child therapist, guides you through a step-by-step recovery process
to help you heal the damage done in the past.
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Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman
by Beverly Engel
For those of us who are or have been emotionally abused, we know how the experience insidiously sabotages our self-esteem. We know
how easy it can be to falter, to begin to feel the familiar self-doubt and fear. We need to be reminded that the abuse is not our fault. We need
to find the motivation to trust our perceptions -- and find the courage to change our present reality.
ENCOURAGEMENTS FOR THE EMOTIONALL ABUSED WOMAN addresses these needs. Whether we are just beginning to recognize that
we are in abusive relationships or whether we have made the decision to break free, this book is here, a consistent reminder of positive
growth. Written as a companion to Beverly Engel's landmark THE EMOTIONALLY ABUSED WOMAN, this volume of quotes, insights,
feelings, and suggestions contains passages to be read and reread, turned to as a trusted friend, to help us grow stronger with each
passing day. Any time, day or night, it is ready, on any page, to help, to heal, and to replenish the soul.
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You Can't Say That to Me:
Stopping the Pain of Verbal Abuse
--An 8- Step Program
by Suzette Haden Elgin
A simple-to-follow, 8-step program using the author's celebrated ``Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense'' techniques. Provides readers with a
practical method for ending virtually all forms of verbal abuse at home, work, school and even in the streets. Contains a wealth of tips and
basic practical advice that can be used immediately. Numerous exercises and activities enable readers to test and practice techniques
on their own. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out;
On relationship and recovery
by Patricia Evans
If your partner: seems irritated or angry at you several times a week; denies being angry when he clearly is; does not work with you to resolve
important issues; rarely or never seems to share thoughts or plans with you; or tells you that he has no idea what you're talking about when you
try to discuss important problems...you need this book.
About the Author :
Patricia Evans has worked extensively in counseling and recovery settings with battered women. After her first book, The Verbally
Abusive Relationship, was published, she received hundreds of letters from verbal abuse survivors around the world. Those letters formed
the basis of this book.
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The Verbally Abusive Relationship:
How to Recognize it and How to Respond
by Patricia Evans
Are you now, or have you ever been, in relationships with family, friends, or mates who have been verbally abusive? Is your happiness with
someone you love continually threatened by interactions that continually undermine your self-esteem? Do you feel trapped in a relationship
that keeps decaying in a downward spiral of overt or passive-aggressive abuse?
If so, this book could be your life raft, either carrying you toward repair of the existing relationship or the effects of past relationships or
offering liberation from your current confusion. Its practical approach can help clear your head and possibly change your life. The only criticism
that I and other readers have is that the author assumes verbal abuse is almost always directed by males toward females, which, in my
experience and that of others I know, is not necessarily the case. Highly Recommended.
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Healing the Scars of Emotional Abuse
by Gregory L. Jantz
Whether you or a loved one has been abused by words, actions, or even indifference, this book will help you understand the effects of the
abuse, give you insight into the problems of the abuser, and show you how to overcome the past.
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Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse : The Journey Worth the Risk
by Nancy Benvenga
It provides valuable information to those who have been victims of abuse as well as those who wish to learn more about this important
subject. Adults who were abused as children will gain insights into ways to overcome the effects of emotional abuse.
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Women Who Love Too Much : When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change
by Robin Norwood
Helps women who tend to be attracted to emotionally unavailable or abusive men to recognize and change the way they love through case
histories and gentle advice.
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Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity
by Helen Marx (Translator), Thomas Moore (Afterword), Marie-France Hirigoyen
It is possible to destroy someone simply with words, looks, and innuendos: the term for this is emotional abuse or moral harassment,
and the evidence is mounting that this a major epidemic in our culture. In this landmark study, already a bestseller in France and
forthcoming on over ten countries, the author analyzes, with numerous examples, the specific features of an abusive relationship-and
cautions against complacency. She demonstrates a deadly process at work among couples, families, and in the workplace, a process
that sweeps its victims into a downward vortex that can even lead to suicide. Until now the subject of emotional abuse through perverse
violence has been largely neglected. This noteworthy and well-documented book is a practical guide for its victims and for people
wishing to help them, as well as for health professionals. Written clearly and vividly, Stalking the Soul will engage all those who
choose not to remain indifferent to a painful and surprisingly widespread problem in our society today.
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Emotional Blackmail : When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You
by Susan Forward, Donna Frazier
"If you really loved me..."
"After all I've done for you..."
"How can you be so selfish..."
Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to
us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They
know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers.
And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance.
Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are
from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents
the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back. In her clear, no-nonsense style,
Forward provides powerful, practical strategies for blackmail targets, including checklists, practice scenarios and concrete communications
techniques that will strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle for good.
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